I’m excited for today’s Your Lines, which happens to be with one of my mom idols in life–my cousin-in-law Jacquelyn of j&j brusie photography. Amazing mom, amazing photos! Jacquelyn had her son about a year after I had Ada, and she has pulled off the whole mom thing seamlessly and gracefully. Not to mention, somewhere along the midst of giving birth and getting married, she managed to start her own successful photography business, run half marathons, go back to work full-time, and plan the trip of a lifetime to Italy. No big deal. Oh–and her husband has a top-secret job working for the CIA. Awesome.
Read Jacquelyn’s interview below and…
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Tell us about the moment you saw your own two lines. And more importantly—were they blue?
Ah, the infamous moment when you first find out you’re going to be a mommy. We were in Indianapolis for the Indy 500 weekend with Zach’s entire extended family. I knew I was a few days late, so before I decided to part take in the race day festivities, we took the dreaded trip to CVS to be sure I wasn’t drinking for two. I took the first test in the store bathroom and there it was, 1 and a half lines showed up blue, or at least that’s all I wanted to see. So I bought two more tests and they all said PREGNANT! All I wanted to do was cry, but we were surrounded by family and friends so we had to act like nothing was wrong, which was the hardest part. I remember Zach didn’t sleep at all that night because he was Googling statistics on “false positives” on pregnancy tests. Judging by what Google said, we were going to parents! (Editor’s note: What? Zach didn’t find the site I found? If you had a trace of soap on your test, you can get a false positive! Amateur. 🙂 )
How do you think having an unplanned pregnancy has changed your life? (Besides the obvious baby, of course.)
I think when you first see the two blue lines, you’re in shock and scared to death of what your future holds. But the moment that makes it all better is when you see your baby look at you for the first time–it’s when you know your life has completely changed and for me, it was love at first sight. It’s crazy how much love you can have for something so instantly. However, I’m not going to lie, having an unplanned pregnancy is challenging, especially when you’re not married, living in two different states with two different careers like my husband and I were. We had a lot to figure out in a short amount of time, but for some reason it all worked out in time.
As far as life after baby, rather than a “honeymoon” stage of marriage, we’ve had a “family” moon, literally. The three of us went to Disney world the week after our wedding. Date nights usually consist of a party of three, except for the occasional weekends where our parents are in town and push us out the door. He’s definitely changed the amount of alone time we have as a couple, which I think is the case for most marriages once children come along.
How did you make the decision to get married after your son was born?
This was something both Zach and I struggled with; before we found out we were going to have a baby, we had talked about marriage, but we wanted to wait a couple of years since we were living long distance and we were both pretty career driven. So when we found out we were going to be parents, we knew our timeline had sped up significantly. We decided to wait until after Elijah was born to get married, because we knew we had enough on our plates. We felt we needed to take it one life-changing step at a time and we both have very supportive families, which helped a lot with our decision.
I definitely have had my share of awkward moments in the months where I had a different last name than my baby and fiancé’, like having to sign paternity papers in the hospital since I wasn’t married to my baby’s daddy and dealing with the insurance companies on whose insurance would cover what was extremely frustrating, but ultimately I’m happy with my decision.
Time for my signature question: What does a typical day in your life look like?
A typical day for me right now is waking up with Eli usually in our bed (like I said, not a lot of alone time now a days, LOL), making a strong pot of coffee, dressing Eli and myself, then catching the first half hour of the Today show while Eli eats his waffle. Then off to work and daycare. Home by five, make dinner, bath time then we usually take the dogs for a walk to get Eli to fall asleep in the stroller. Then once he’s asleep I get to have fun with my photography…which leads me to the my next question!
What inspired you to start your own business?
My sister and I started a photography business last year for two reasons. One, to forever hold onto our maiden name, j&j Brusie Photography, and two, photography it is something we’ve always had a passion for. We’ve always talked about starting a photo biz and when I took time off after having Eli, I had time to research and start marketing for our initial clientele. It’s very rewarding to run a business and it’s a great way to see people smile when they see our work.
Ok, spill, spill. You and your hubby are taking the trip of a lifetime to Italy this fall—what’s on the agenda?
Well we’ve always wanted to go to Italy and this will be my first time in Europe, I’m so excited! We leaving baby behind with grandma and grandpa and we’re taking our long awaited honeymoon! We’re starting out in Rome for 3 nights where we’re staying at a B&B next to the Vatican. We’re touring the Vatican and taking an excavation tour that takes you under St. Peter’s Basilica which I heard is very fascinating. Next stop is taking the train up to Venice for a night and then touring Tuscany for 3 nights and then ending our adventure on the Amalfi Coast in the romantic city of Ravello where we’ll explore the island of Capri and drink lots of wine! (Editor’s note: O.M.G.)
You recently became a full-time working momma, how’s that been going?
It’s actually going pretty good. It was supposed to be a part time thing, however that was way too good to be true. But I do enjoy getting out of the house and Elijah has adjusted to daycare wonderfully. I still struggle on the days where he grabs my legs when I’m dropping him off and think to myself if it’s worth it, but for the most part, it has taught me to cherish every moment I get to spend with him and know that he’s learning a lot by being around other children his age.
Thanks so much to Jacquelyn for her interview and also for offering one lucky reader the choice of 10 professionally edited photos of her choice by j&j. Leave a comment below or on the Tiny Blue Lines Facebook page to enter! Winner will be drawn Thursday night!