Finally….a woman after my own heart. I have found a fellow blogger out there in the online world who–lo and behold–also works as a night-shift nurse and (shhh!!) doesn’t always enjoy it. My heart is soaring with happiness. And the fact that she also happens to be a young mother of three and write an incredibly entertaining blog? Just icing on the cake, baby.
What’s your story?
Well, well…my story. OK, I am 26 years old. Just recently celebrated my birthday. Yep, Happy Birthday to me! I have been married to the love of my life 5 years and some months and we have 3 little princesses. Princesses as in children not dogs. Yes, it gets confusing sometimes because many people talk about their animals as if they are people. Nothing wrong with that…just clarifying. Ok, our children are ages 4, 3 and 4 months.
Finally, a woman after my own heart. A nurse who maybe doesn’t love nursing. How’d you get into nursing?
I have been a nurse 5 years. Yes, I must admit that I am one of those nurses that does not like her job. I chose nursing as my career because back in college, I knew that my husband and I would soon get married and have children. The nursing program was fast paced and I already had most of my prerequisites that I did during high school. I did not want to end up pregnant and dropping out of college and then returning to school years down the line. We all know that is how it goes first! My plan was to graduate from nursing school and have a secure career before real life took its course. After I graduated and passed boards, I wanted to be a labor and delivery nurse. I quickly found out that those jobs were hard to come about. I ended up taking a job as a Medical-Surgical nurse and so my hell began! Now I work in the ambulatory care arena.
What do you dislike about it?
My feelings on being a nurse are weird. It is something that I am very good at. My patients always tell me “you are the best nurse” or “you are so compassionate” and to hear those words are so satisfying. How can something that I am so good at be something that I hate? The problem is that I could be doing something else, like taking care of my 3 children and my husband. There comes a time in every nurses career that they have to be the charge nurse or the head nurse for the shift. For me that means every shift. I am also the emergency room nurse when I work. Working at an ambulatory care center is a little different. The charge nurse wears many hats. I serve as the ER nurse, the night supervisor, and the go to person for any and everything that happens on my shift. I do not like all that responsibility. I do not like to monitor other nurses to make sure they are doing their job. While I am at work, all I think about is my family at home and that they are missing out on my care because I have to take care of someone else.
I also had a “diva” baby–I couldn’t cuddle with her and it hurt me so much (Read about my experience with that here). How do you cope?
Oh yes…diva baby. My Joy is definitely a diva baby. My little baby came into the world screaming! She most certainly makes her presence known any way that she can. She expects everyone to know exactly what she wants at every second. Joy is not the typical cuddly textbook Gerber baby. She does not liked to be held tight or snuggled. I think it is because she always sees her big sisters running past her. I can tell she wants to jump right in on the fun. Joy and I have compromised. She lets me hold her for a long time if she is sitting on my knee or between my legs. Baby Joy, does not mind sleeping next to me. Of course I can not hold her while she sleeps! She just wants to be close enough where she can smell me. She is slowly easing out of her diva behaviors now that she is getting older.
I’m sure you hear it all the time, but how do you do it all? Work full-time and have three kids??
I do not know how I do it all. I take one day at a time. It is difficult working full time at night with three children and a husband who also works full time. I try to make each day as normal as possible. Working nights makes me extremely tired, but I do not want to sleep all day after work and let life pass me by so I stay up and enjoy my children. At night I get excited knowing that we all made it through the day and accomplished what needed to be done. If everyone is happy going to bed then I am happy.
What drives you to write your blog?
Blogging is a hobby. It is fun to write whatever I want and have people respond. I enjoy reading other blogs too. These days I wish I had more time to blog and connect with other bloggers, but I do not and I miss it.
What are your long-term goals? (To get out of nursing? Ha!)
Right now, I am thinking about getting into anything that does not involve direct patient care. I wish I could quit work completely and be a stay at home mom, but I have to be realistic. By the end of the year, I hope to be working for a health insurance company doing case management.
What do you love about being a young mom?
I love that I will be able to watch my children grow old and see their children and their children’s children. I love that we will all grow up and mature together. I love that I can easily relate to them. I love making up my own rules and going with the flow. I love how I am able to mold my 3 little princesses into beautiful and knowledgeable young girls. I like proving to everyone that us young mom/families can raise children just like or better than an older or more established family.
Thanks so much for your interview and good luck to both of us on our journey out of nursing!