Meet Heidi Oran of The Conscious Perspective, a young mom, blogger, and work-from-home mother who is trying to cultivate a conscious perspective in an unlikely place–the blogosphere. According to Heidi, a “conscious perspective” is
“The ability to assess a situation, person, or experience with non-judgment, compassion, and tolerance.” -Heidi Oran
She just kicked off a campaign to make this week, March 18-25, a week of Non-Judgement. I love that idea because I am guilty as sin when it comes to judging others, so I signed up take the pledge to not judge anyone this week.
One full week of “spending 7 full days enjoying the peace that comes along with viewing others with a kind heart.” Sounds pretty peaceful to me, you guys. I even found myself judging some little kids at birthday party this weekend, so clearly, I was in need of an intervention.
If you’re in, sign the pledge against judgment here and grab some bling for your blog to join in. Then, read on for more about this inspiring young mom!
Tell us about you:
I’m a work-from-home mom of three boys, almost 5, 4, and 3 months living on an organic farm outside of Toronto, Ontario. Along with blogging on The Conscious Perspective, I am currently working on my first book and am (slowly) working toward achieving my undergraduate degree.
I also have an organization I Co-Founded last year focusing on connecting charities to bloggers, called Charitable Influence.
What was your reaction to finding out you were pregnant?
I was super happy to learn I was pregnant. My partner and I had decided we wanted to have a baby, so it was happy news.
Did you get married? Why or why not?
I’m not married in the traditional sense. Never was important to me or my partner. Still isn’t 9 years later.
How did you prepare emotionally for your baby to arrive?
I feel like my first pregnancy was a lifetime ago, I was 23 at the time, and I don’t think I had any clue really what to expect. I read a lot of books, but other than that I was going into Motherhood blind.
Did you use government aid, like Medicaid or WIC?
I live in Canada, and am so so so grateful for our healthcare system. I used the traditional method of medical care, an OB/GYN, and it was all covered by the government.
Did you bond with your baby during your pregnancy?
Sure, I called my son Maya (our girl name) the whole time, but I truly felt a connection and was very excited to meet him. I remember borrowing a stethoscope from my pharmacist friend to see if we could hear him in there when I was further along. (For the record, it didn’t work).
What stigmas and stereotypes did you encounter as an unwed mother?
During my first pregnancy, I lived in a very small town (not the city I grew up in), and there were many young unwed Mothers around. In fact, it was almost the norm there to live Common-Law. So I really didn’t feel judged.
Thoughts on working or staying home?
Again, it is whatever works. I always wanted to be a stay-at-home Mom, so I’m grateful I can do this. But I have a good understanding of why others may want to work outside of the home. Everyone makes choices based on what is best for their family.
Describe your typical day.
I homeschool the boys, so during the day there is lots of learning happening. I also get my writing in when I can as well. I tend to go with the flow much more since my third pregnancy. I just let the day unfold and try not to worry too much about sticking to a rigid routine.
What surprised you the most about giving birth?
The birth experience is so surreal and so completely unpredictable. Each experience was so different and I think that was the most surprising. The inconsistency of each labor and delivery. As much as you try to prepare, it can all be thrown out the window so quickly.
How do keep yourself sane as a mom?
I’d like to say it’s because I make time for me – but I’d be lying. What really keeps me sane is writing. I need to do it. It’s definitely how I stay sane.