In order to distract myself from today’s disappointing news–I just got back from the OB and I’m only 1 and 1/2 cm dilated, which means no induction for me and a possible 10+ more days of being pregnant. Which wouldn’t be so bad if it literally wasn’t 100 degrees out right now and I wasn’t tipping the scales at the heaviest I have ever, ever been….
I am cheering myself up with a book giveaway!
I had the privilege of meeting author Jennifer Grant at a writing conference (my first!) back in April. She held a lovely lunch discussion, for which I was profoundly late, ensuring that I made my very pregnant entrance even more noticeable. She didn’t hold it against me, however, and I ended up with a signed copy of her awesome book, MOMumental.
Her book is exactly the kind of book on motherhood that I like–funny with just the right amount of serious insights into motherhood, down-to-earth, and most importantly–real. She talks openly about the type of mom we always thought we would be, you know, organic cereal and what not, and the sometimes-not-as-ideal moms we end up to be. I know it’s something we hear often, but her book just really made me believe that it really is ok–our children will know they are loved, no matter how much organic food they eat.
I also really liked her message on just letting kids be kids. I”m a big believer in that, and Jennifer took it even a step further by opening my eyes to the belief that often, we treat kids like mini-adults. Like their personalities, interests, and traits they show now will follow them the rest of their life. (Holy cow, she did a somersault–get in her gymnastics class! Look at that drawing, I’m almost a recognizable blob–a budding artist!)
Her insight really struck me. I realized that it’s definitely something I have believed about my children–that Ada’s sassy side will stick with her forever, that I haven’t done enough educational activities with her, that she will be behind because she’s not in any organized classes. I realized that I definitely treat Ada like a little mini-adult instead of the kid that she is. Here’s an excerpt from her book:
“None of my kids is done maturing yet. The human brain just keeps developing. One set of studies says we aren’t truly mature adults until we reach the age of twenty-five. Twenty-five! Still, we sometimes except preschoolers to be empathetic, to be selfless, and even to respond graciously when another child grabs their new sand shovel at the park…As much as we fantasize about such things as endless, sleep-interrupted nights, it would not be a good thing. No–young kids perceive their hunger, injury and well-being as the most important things in the world. And that’s how it should be.”
Well, shoot. I felt foolish after reading that. Like, duh. I really need to relax a little when I expect my four-year-old to never have a breakdown, huh?
I think you guys will really enjoy this book, and Jennifer has kindly sent me a brand-spankin’-new copy to send to a lucky reader, so be sure to enter two ways by 1) leaving a comment below and 2) liking my Facebook page and leaving a comment to let me know you did!
In honor of the due-date-I-hoped-would-be, I will choose a winner on Saturday! Good luck!