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Chaunie Brusie

Mom | Writer | Nurse

June 6, 2013 By Chaunie

Blogging is Scary + I Don’t Have An Open Marriage

There’s nothing like getting a call from your mother in the middle of her work day while you are unsuspectingly sitting at home playing play-dough with your three-year-old and feeding your insatiable baby his lunch.

“What is this, young lady?” she demanded when I picked up the phone. “Did you really write this?”

“Huh? What do you mean?” I asked as I continued to shred string cheese for Jake, being careful not to mix play-dough onto his highchair tray.

“One of the teachers just came down to my room to tell me he had no idea that my daughter was in an open marriage!” she hissed.

Ok, ok, so there may have been a slight misunderstanding that occurred yesterday.

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Photo credit: Flickr/Vincent_AF

Did I forget to tell you guys that I just joined Babble as the newest love + relationships blogger on their new relationships channel? Yes? Well, yay, I’m a new love + relationships blogger! I’ve been really, super excited about the job and looking forward to flexing my writing muscles, so to speak, and writing about a few other things other than babies and pregnancy. (Not that I don’t love writing about babies and pregnancy, of course.)

I’ve only been with Babble for a week and written precisely only two articles. I’ve been trying to come up with some interesting topics, since I’m so brand-new there and it’s important to get a readership going, right?

But apparently I went a tad too far. 

It all started when I was reading this book that I rented from the library in which the author was giving an overview on the history of marriage and included an entire chapter on disproving why monogamy was important in a marriage. I thought it was pretty funny stuff, shared it with Ben over dinner, and then thought, Hey! This would make a great article!

So I wrote it up, included some pictures, and titled it, “5 Compelling Reasons Why Marriage Isn’t Meant to be Monogamous.” Obviously, the title was meant to be attention grabbing for a reason and I listed the 5 reasons that the author laid out and then–and this is the important part--in my last paragraph I said, “nope, sorry, not buying it. I think marriage should be monogamous.”

Except when Yahoo decided to add the piece to their homepage, they initially also edited out the last paragraph so it looked like I was totally and completely in support of open marriages and more than likely, as the over 3,000 comments pointed out, a lying, cheating poor-excuse-for-a-spouse.

And the fact that I was splayed all over Yahoo as a proponent for open marriages not only prompted my mother to have a heart attack at school, but also caused me considerable concern considering that I have a book deal with a Catholic publisher.

I was so embarrassed and made several panicked, soaked-in-terror-sweat phone calls to try to iron out the situation.

Luckily, it all got worked out (Yahoo added my last paragraph back in, phew!) and my publisher doesn’t have any immediate plans, as I feared all day, of dropping me.

But the whole thing has left me with a sick feeling in my stomach. 

Because the truth is, I just want to be a writer.

I don’t necessarily want to put my entire life out on the Internet, with the weirdo commenters of Yahoo Shine to have open access for a free-for-all judgment fest on me. It feels like there is no separation from writing and me personally, because so many of the sites I write for expect you to promote your work, which requires a readership, which requires blogging, and the circle goes `round and `round.

It’s scary to think that based on one article I write, there are countless numbers of people forming opinions on me, thinking they know me, maybe even looking up my space here.

For the first time, blogging and writing suddenly seem scary.

And one last time, for the record, I don’t support cheating on one’s spouse.

Hear that, Mom?

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Filed Under: Writing Tagged With: 5 reasons marriage isn't meant to be monogamous, babble, blogging for babble, blogging is scary, should i be worried about blogging, writing for Babble 9 Comments

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  1. Rhonda says

    June 6, 2013 at 9:57 am

    Stand in confidence, my friend! You know what you wrote, and you know in your heart what you stand for. You are becoming more successful and more exposed, moving further and further out of your own circle of people. Don’t live in fear and question (too much) everything you write. Trust your OWN judgement and you will do great, you have already come so far!

    I think it was a great article, an interesting perspective.

    Reply
    • Tiny Blue Lines says

      June 7, 2013 at 8:22 am

      You have something to confess, Rhonda? LOL

      Reply
      • Rhonda says

        June 7, 2013 at 11:25 am

        Ya know…now that you say that… lol

        Reply
  2. Kristin says

    June 6, 2013 at 2:19 pm

    I feel ya. As soon as you put your words out there, especially on the Internet, you’re like, “Okay world, what do you think of that (i.e. me)? It’s incredibly scary and sometimes I don’t know if it’s worth it; the more exposure, the scarier. But, I continue to do it!

    Hopefully anyone who really reads your blog knows your true beliefs and won’t jump to conclusions.

    Reply
  3. Kayla says

    June 6, 2013 at 4:55 pm

    Ugh, I’m sorry that happen! I’m always wary of what I post and who will read it and if someday I may regret sharing it but do what you do. I’m pretty sure there’s a Dr. Seuss quote along the lines of “those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” All those close to you will have a good laugh about that time you inadvertently said you were in an open marriage!

    Reply
    • Tiny Blue Lines says

      June 7, 2013 at 8:22 am

      Thanks, Kayla! You’re right, I have to be more careful!

      Reply
  4. Jennice says

    June 7, 2013 at 12:55 pm

    I hate when people twist up what your trying to say.Glad you got the situation under control,good for you!

    Reply
  5. miranda says

    June 10, 2013 at 12:45 pm

    Aw Chaunie! Bless your heart! What an ordeal! I heartily extend congratulations for joining Babble, and also getting featured on Yahoo. These are great steps for your writing career, even if their are a few misconceptions about your message along the way 😉 Rock on Mama!

    Reply
    • Tiny Blue Lines says

      June 10, 2013 at 3:53 pm

      Thanks Miranda!!

      Reply

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