CNN ended up picking up her piece and oh my gosh, the comments! As predicted, they ranged from everything to how unwed mothers expect everyone to take care of them to how ridiculous we all are to why can’t we all just perfectly plan out our lives like they did?
Some of my favorites?
“The author is blaming TV, divorce statistics , and her preference for non-traditional families to rationalize that young single motherhood is a positive thing.”
“Yes, but for the vast majority of unwed, lesser educated single moms, the Mom is left alone to rely on family and government assistance to survive. Going to college isn’t an option.”
Here’s an idea- Put a wrapper on it before you you start the party and you won’t have to worry about becoming a 20-somethng mother.”
“You reap what you sow and no one else should be responsible for the mistakes you make. That goes for men and women. You can’t keep it in your pants or keep your legs closed, sorry…not my problem. Or it shouldn’t be made my problem at least.”
I get that people don’t want to fall over themselves when yet another young, unmarried mom announces her pregnancy, I really do.
I had a really hard time with thinking that I was going to be a burden to society for using Medicaid for the six months I did when I was kicked off my parents’ insurance when I (so irresponsibly) chose to get married. I hated the thought that I needed help.
But why, oh, why do people act like every young mother is a leech to society?
Why do we blame her for getting pregnant or staying pregnant or trying to create a life that is best for her and her child?
And can someone please explain why everyone in the world thinks it is their business how, and if, she chooses to use birth control?
I know it’s a shocking thought, but I happen to think that birth control and family planning are personal decisions. The truth is, no form of birth control besides abstinence is 100% fail proof.
I fully understand the thought process that if a young, single woman gets pregnant and needs help, whether that be from a family member to watch the baby or governmental insurance, that people will get all up in arms about helping her and want to point fingers and blame her for getting pregnant in the first place.
But is that right conversation we need to be having?