Last night, I watched the movie “10 Years” with the hubs. It’s a movie starring my main squeeze, Channing Tatum and his adorable wife.
Of course, I regretted watching the movie at the end of the night, because it featured Channing and his wife as a real-life couple in the movie and their on-screen adorableness and chemistry was nauseating.
I was all, “Oh, how nice for them. They are perfect little people with perfect little bodies and perfect bank accounts and perfectly in love and now they are having the perfect little baby.”
And then I went to sleep next to a snoring husband and woke up to my boobs leaking milk all over and tried to cook breakfast but immediately had to change the poopiest diaper of all time when Jake decided to fill `em.
My life is not so perfect.
And honestly, sometimes I struggle so much with comparing myself to others. Especially as a writer, when I see other women’s success, I will admit that I literally have to talk myself into being happy for them. Case in point, the lovely Michelle Horton of Early Mama recently signed on with Parenting to be their young mom blogger. (Read her first post here!) I mean, seriously, an awesome, inspiring thing, but because I am a loser, I will admit I felt a twinge of jealousy.
Luckily for me, I am getting better.
Although the green-eyed monster definitely tries to rear its ugly head in my life, I have learned to follow 3 simple steps to keeping jealously out of my life:
1. Realize that no one can tell your story like you can. If you are a writer, like me, you will definitely appreciate this one. I’ve struggled with thinking, “What can I possibly add to the conversation that hasn’t already been said?” But the truth is, no one call tell your story like you can. Whether it is your own personal story or a researched article, no one can write it like you can. And the same principle applies to your life. No one is like you. No one. Only you can live your life. And that’s an awesome and amazing thing.
2. Remember that you are never know what goes on behind closed doors. Although things may look just fine and dandy on the outside for the world’s perfect people (Channing Tatum’s wife, *cough*), it’s important to keep in mind that we can never, ever know the truth about someone else’s life. No matter how many pictures someone posts on Facebook or how many articles they publish or how perfectly they can fit into their jeans, we don’t know what else is going on in their lives. We don’t know how much they sacrifice to get there or what happened after that picture was taken. No one is perfect, even though many of us only like to share those seemingly perfect moments.
3. Use jealous as a tool to identify YOUR goals. I know that for me, when I hear about someone taking an awesome vacation or getting an incredible raise or nabbing a prestigious job, my first inclination is to think, “Wow! I’m so jealous!” But when I stop to think about it, I realize that those things are not necessarily my goals. It helps me to literally write down my priorities and long-term goals to keep my mind focused on what is actually important to me in my day-to-day life. I’m usually able to step back and realize that even though at first glance, I admire so and so’s success or new promotion, it’s really not something that I want to invest time and effort to pursue because it’s just not that important to me. Keep your eye on the prize of what is important to you and not anyone else’s definition of success.
I would just like to end this post by reminding you not to be jealous of my Pinterest-worthy photo editing skills.
Because they are clearly awesome.