If you’re a mother, you may completely relate to the concept of being touched out. In fact, tell me if the following has ever happened to you …
It’s late at night, you’re finally tucked in your bed, away from the kids, the blissful comfort of the blanket wrapped just perfectly around your shoulders. You’re just about to close your eyes when it happens: Your husband, unwrapping your perfectly-placed blanket to go in for a cuddle. And instead of welcoming his embrace, your first instinct is to unconsciously (and probably visibly) cringe so hard.
No, you’re not a terrible wife. You’re just a mom who is totally and completely touched out.
Being a mom who is touched out is as simple as it sounds. You are simply being touched too much for your own comfort during the day. Now that I am a mom of kids who are a little older (between the ages of 3 and 9), I don’t experience this as much, but when my kids were younger, omg was this my life. Not only was I breastfeeding 24/7, which meant having an actual person sucking the life out of me all day and night, but the baby was constantly with me–pulling my hair, biting me, pinching at my skin (why do babies do that, why??!), climbing on my legs, clamoring to be picked up.
And then, of course, the toddlers come with their own needs, for cuddles and kisses and carting around when their legs suddenly stop working at the precise moment you really, really need them to walk. And even older kids find a way to be close to mom, with a certain knack for stopping right in front of me the moment I’m trying to walk or push a cart at the grocery store. All of these things are good things, of course, and as moms, we are so grateful to soak up the physical moments with our kids while they still want to be around us because we know the teen years are looming when it won’t even be cool to look at us, let alone cuddle with us.
But still, we are humans with our own needs and thresholds and personalities and yes, physical boundaries…
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